“When you want something, you attract the wanting-ness.”
~ Neale Donald Walsch
Reading the above quote from Conversations with God has changed my life, and it can change yours too. Wanting something is a declaration that it is missing. Our thoughts create our reality, so by wanting, we are really creating the circumstances where what we want is missing.
I’ve done this so many times I cannot count. Here’s a couple of examples maybe you can relate to. While at the grocery store, I’m wanting to buy a certain item. I know they carry it, and there is always plenty in stock. I’m looking near where I think it should be, but cannot see it. I finally ask an employee to help me locate it. As it turned out, it was right in front of my face, yet I did not see it.
Another example is when I’m playing pool (think billiards). I want to win. Everyone always prefers winning to losing. I’m not doing so well, and get behind. With each turn, it seems like the situation is getting worse and worse, until finally, I give up my expectation of winning, and simply say to myself, “just do your best.” At this point, the game turns around. I start making some really unbelievable shots, and sink a lot more balls. Often, I end up winning, or at least keep the score close, simply by giving up wanting.
The key is to desire something. Desire is free from anxiety. Walsch also wrote, “‘Having a passion’ for something is what drives us to an experience. It is what motivates us, inspires us. ‘Having an expectation,’ on the other hand, generally ruins whatever we may had had a passion for.”
Recognize when you are wanting, then let it go, shifting your thoughts to thinking it would be nice to have, but everything will still be okay whatever happens.