Marriage is the form in which you chose _______ years ago to express and live your love relationship. To serve its purpose your marriage has changed as you have changed, but your unchanging commitment to love and to life has allowed you both to experience and share a magnificence unknown to you before. Today you are here to renew that commitment and to share with us the celebration of your love.
Marriage is, among other things, the adoption of a passionate morality, the decision never to disappoint someone. It is the election of a profoundly respected partner to be the keeper of one’s character; it’s the setting up and sharing of values, the taking on of a fierce vigilance that fends off shabbiness and snarls at the notion of settling for less than one should. Marriage is a means of becoming unselfish, yet of exalted value to oneself because of one’s pact with another person. It is truly prizing something and taking the risk of trying with all one’s strength not to mess it up. It is the incomparable adventure of not averting one’s eyes.
Is it difficult?It has its moments! But it offers grand rewards.It provides order and gives resonance to events.It links one day with the next.Best of all, it allows for the great comfort of simplicity – and maybe that is what accounts for the renewed appeal of marriage now, for its intense attraction for men and women who cherish their days, who are emphatic about the quality of their moments.Marriage lets us refine out the essential from the trivial, from the paltry.It keeps us from squandering ourselves on petty things.It lets us use ourselves on things that matter, things that make a life.
Kahlil Gibran has said of marriage: “It is the union of two souls in a strong love for the abolishment of separateness. It is that higher unity, which fuses the separate unities within the two spirits. It is the golden ring in a chain whose beginning is a glance, and whose ending is eternity. It is the bond that unites the strangeness of the past with the brightness of the future; the link between the silence of the feelings and their song.” Are you ready to restate your vows? Yes. Please face each other and join both hands.
Husband, in renewing your commitment to Wife, you must promise to continue to be sensitive to her needs and to listen when she explains their nature. You must promise to be there when she needs you and to do everything in your power to insure her security, happiness and peace of mind.You must promise to share with her your joy of living and be a loving companion.Do you so promise?I do.
Wife, in renewing your commitment to Husband, you must promise to continue to be sensitive to his needs and to listen when he explains their nature. You must promise to be there when he needs you and to do everything in your power to insure his security, happiness and peace of mind.You must promise to share with him your joy of living and be a loving companion.Do you so promise?I do.
May I have the rings, please? These rings by their shape are symbols of the undying love that exists between you. The substance of which they are composed is a symbol of the purity that shall ever characterize your minds and hearts in all your relations.
Husband, please place the ring on the third finger of Wife’s left hand and repeat after me: This ring I give to you, my wife, in token and pledge of my constant faith and abiding love.
Wife, please place the ring on the third finger of Husband’s left hand and repeat after me: This ring I give to you, my husband, in token and pledge of my constant faith and abiding love.
Would you join with me in a moment of prayer? Infinite Father-Mother-God: Bless these two that stand before us now, as they have, once again, committed their love and their lives to one another. Be with them in their thoughts, their words and their deeds. Bless their lives with health, with happiness, with peace and prosperity, and with a love that continues to grow and to endure. I give thanks that it is already done. And so it is! Amen.
Now by the authority vested in me by my church, but most of all, by the power of your own love, I pronounce you still married! You may continue to call yourselves by those two old and respected names: husband and wife!